A Fucking Joke |  Judicial System In Lancaster, PA & The So Called ‘Rights Of The Victim’

I was in Lancaster Court of Common Pleas today, not on a matter related to myself.  If I could have thrown up while manically screaming vile obscenities at this joke of a notion of procedural fairness.  I would have.

I’m not passing judgment on the Judge…or Judges…yet.  However the irony of touting in a court room how the victims have rights, and their desire for case outcome is a strong factor.

That it matters.

Such a line of bullshit.  I’ve had my own shitty dealing with the “victim advocate”, I’ve got a hell of a paper trail where my supposed “rights” as a victim where not upheld.  My advocate did *nothing* and the whole time I wondered what exactly it is she would do for someone not as vocal as I was.  That is a very scary thought.

It’s happening – Every. Single.Day.

In some ways, I did my ex a ‘solid’.  Not by my own choice and not because it didn’t happen, but from fear.

He had me by the neck with enough force to result in petechiae—tiny red spots due to ruptured capillaries—a signature injury of strangulation.  I lost consciousness but had I said that when I was at the police station, I knew his anger would be off the charts.  I was scared to say it, scared of his reaction if I did.  Scared.

I was scared period.  I didn’t yet know his bail would be set at $100k. FTR, the day after I went home and I *knew* he was in jail.  Even *knowing* that, the fear that was still flowing from the night before…even to this day, I have yet to regain the feeling of being safe, that was taken that day.

Days after my bruising increased.  My voice was hoarse, my neck hurt so badly and the broken blood vessels in my eyes.

For months I watched him play the system, going to his mommys house where he continued to use drugs and hurt people.  I watched him get picked up on bench warrants, drug back to PA from MA, only to go back and use again.

I sat with his threat that he will “burn” my “house down with the kids in it”.

I told this to the victim advocate.

He BROKE a VA Hospital Police officers hand while out on bail from Lancaster County.  Anything happen.  Nope.  Just more drug use.

After today, sitting in court and listening to someone get FIVE YEARS PROBATION for $900 worth of bad checks.  Listening to the judge say that “victim” wants them in jail for that and he needs to take into account what the victim wants.

Really, novel idea.

But my favorite that just frosts my cookies… A man said something stupid.  Words -words only.  Days after the stupid comment, charges were filed.  The person who had the charges filled on them, did NOT TOUCH let alone HURT the “victim”.  In fact, the “victim” played nice for days after with the person who said stupid words.

Words.  Stupid words, said in a crass manner. Not ok but words nonetheless. 

The person being charged has zero prior anything’s.

The charges are terroristic threats.  The same charge my violent husband received. 

Follow along class.  My ‘husband’, in order:

  • Arrested for assault on a Baltimore City Police Officer
  • Multiple drug charges in PA
  • Arrested on 1st degree Felony assault, 2nd degree assault, attempted carjacking…he *literally* beat the hell out of an innocent bystander, poured gas on him and said he was going to light him on fire.
  • Arrested on fugitive charges
  • Left his kid to get high, got arrested
  • Arrested for terroristic threats and harassment – when he slammed my body many times on the window/window frame as he was telling me I’m “going out the fucking window”.  He choked me, pulled my hair, wouldn’t let me escape, slammed my body to the ground, grabbed me, pulled my hair, tried to throw me down the stairs.

Gets out on a bail mod, uses more drugs, gets arrested, has bench warrants – yes, plural.  Breaks a mans hands and starts trying to light shit on fire. 

He walks. No probation, nothing.  

Here is this person in court, with my own eyes and ears, hearing that saying something *stupid* and it’s going to trial.

That’s what the ‘victim’ wants. – The debate on what was said is not in question.  It was stupid, said in jest or not.  It was wrong.

Glad I had that ADA…oh wait, I didn’t.  Mine let a violet felon with violent priors walk.

Those words are going to have a jury trial (FTR – the person being charged had no bail- ROR, it was a citation in the mail, no glamours police serving a warrant in the wee hours)

Words. 

Yet, Special K walks and the joke that is the victim advocacy did not one fucking thing for me.  My ‘husband’ tried to kill me.  Not words, real bodily harm. 

It’s good to know if I bounce a check in Lancaster County, PA I will get 5 years probation though.  Keeps me honest.  If I actually hurt someone- it’s all good.  Get the right ADA and you get to walk.

In PA you can file private criminal complaints.  For me, I’m fortunate enough to have an attorney that heard everything I said.  And an attorney that has a multi-faceted plan.  Not only for Special K, but to get answers as to why the ADA and victim advocate dropped the ball on a clear cut act of violence.

My complaint is all typed up, scrutinized by my attorney – it’s for 2 charges not brought that day.  I have little faith the judicial system in Lancaster will do much.  But I have to file them and after today, I know that to be true.

How can a violent felon – on paper, with a record of these acts.  Walk?  But a first time offender with words, get a jury trial for the same charge??  Baffles my fucking mind.  It really does.

This is Lancaster County folks.  Money will buy you out of anything.

My attorney reviewed the charges I am attempting to bring.  Nothing may come of it, but if it does.  I will be the victim pushing for jail.

My violent husband is free and walking the streets.  He is one drug use away, one too many drinks away to killing someone.  Literally.  All his acts of violence are public record, not just my experience.

This is why victims stay victims.  The people put in place to advocate and protect, fail.  Time and time again.

Or money.  Those who do have it, get away with things they shouldn’t. Those of us at the other end depend on systems put in place, that fucking fail us.

I hope like hell they arrest him for the new charges.  If they do, my voice will be heard this time.  I want him in jail.

http://www.breakthesilencedv.org – a site I’ve turned to many times.

-mk

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